Love. It’s powerful, confusing and it can totally rob us from relationships. It can eat away our hearts and cause them to break. But there is one key factor behind all love and that’s self-love. Why? Because self-love is the lifeline to all relationships.
1. Without self-love, you’ll be searching for it in others
You are the only one who can validate your love and worth. You can pick all the partners you want but until you fill yourself with love you will be disappointed that each partner failed to validate your love. How do I know this? Because I’ve totally been there.
I used to find myself in the same old toxic relationship patterns. I didn’t fully love myself and as a result, well, I would pick a partner that needed to validate that love. Once I did find self-love I no longer sought partners for validation.
2. You can only love others as much as you love yourself
Now I want you to know that you can still love others even if you don’t fully love yourself. But, the love that you give another can only be met as deep as the love you give yourself. If you’re not on good terms with yourself it’s hard to be there for another person.
When you can’t feel how worthy and loving you are you can’t expect to give a deeper love to someone else. Self-love is a practice and it is achievable to bring to yourself and relationship.
3. Self-love dictates the health of your relationship
Having a healthy relationship within sets the tone for every relationship in your life. If you can’t forgive yourself or treat your thoughts lovingly your relationship could suffer.
Healthy relationships are a place where both people can communicate, be compassionate and be respectful. You need to allow space for this within in order to contribute to the health of your relationship. When you allow yourself to be open to self-love you allow yourself to be open to a healthy relationship.
4. At the end of the day, you only have yourself
You are the only person you have to live with during your ups and downs. So treat her kind and love on her. A question I ask my clients, “what are ways that you practice self-love in your dating life, relationship or breakup?” Now, I am asking you the same.
Sometimes finetuning that self-love is a necessary first start to your love life.
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