Have you ever thought, “I’ll never let myself date someone like him again” or “What was I thinking when I fell for him”? And now you feel stuck and unsure of how to approach the dating world again. I once was exactly in your shoes which is why I created how to date again after a bad breakup:
1. Come up with a different dating strategy
Did your last dating strategy find you the relationship success that you want? If the answer is no, then you need to reassess how you are dating. Don’t worry it ain’t rocket science.
What is important is that you figure out what red flags to look out for and why you’re attracting the same type of guy. Once you have this awareness and a plan to move forward your dating life will be smooth sailing.
2. Re-evaluate what you think you want in a partner
The other day my client said that she knew exactly the type of partner she wanted, has tried everything to find the right relationship and still can’t find it. Had she really tried everything? No. Did she really know the type of partner she wanted to be with? No.
You chose your last partner because somewhere deep inside you thought they had what you wanted. Except they did not. Maybe they had certain qualities but somewhere in your wants for a partner, there is a missing gap. This is why it’s vital to reevaluate this.
3. Ask for help
This is essential. If you don’t ask for help you may end up repeating the same dating patterns over and over again. Which then becomes frustrating because you’re still single and are not in the relationship that you want.
Seeking help from a dating coach will create success in your future relationship. How? When I work with clients I help them figure out how to get that healthy and happy relationship they want. #NoMoreSingleLife
4. Be realistic
The next guy you go on a date with may not be the “one”. And that’s ok. Check in with yourself if you feel like you are forcing to make the date work or instantly brushing your date off. Those are both reactions to protecting yourself which are valid because you legit just went through a bad breakup.
Use this time to be patient and present. The more present you can be dating the better. This will help you see each date for what they are. *Cough* not comparing it to your last ex. The idea is to see each date for exactly who they are with no other comparisons in your way.
5. Reconnect with yourself
Getting to know who you are is key. Especially after a breakup. It can take a few months of getting to know “single you” again. Why? Because it can be difficult to know what your individual interests are vs interests you shared with your ex.
The idea is that you need to reestablish who you are. Since you’ll eventually be in another relationship, it’s important to build the relationship within first. This will set up a foundation of confidence for your next relationship.
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