My Story
My father was abusive and it set the tone for my childhood. I remember as a 3 year old hiding from him under the bed so he would not hurt me. It paved the way for me to be in codependent relationships where I was never fully living for myself. I used outside validation for my worth. I believed if I was liked and needed, I was worthy. I felt broken and that I needed to be fixed so I tried to fix others. Ultimately, this cost me my happiness, peace of mind and serenity.
My reality check came blaring at 24 years old. Sort of the way your dog looks at you when it wants to eat breakfast. I was in an abusive relationship and I was tired of living a life of self-doubt, unworthiness and not being enough. I saw two paths shining brightly upon my face: continue living a lonely life of unworthiness or live fearlessly with self love and purpose.
Feeling stuck, I embarked upon a solo trip 5,000 miles away to gain clarity. My thoughts were like a game of tug of war. My mind wanted me to take the familiar road even if it was dangerous, but my gut roared against it.
Sitting in the Wicklow Mountains a small voice told me that I would be ok and to leave this relationship. In that moment I said out loud, “Carla you are too valuable and you can no longer do this to yourself”. Through trusting in the universe that I was not alone in this journey, I chose the path of self love and purpose.
Today I live the life of the confident warrior: unstoppable, unapologetic, and in full control of my own happiness. I no longer use exteriors to fill the blank space because I am enough just as I am. The confident warrior was always there inside me, I just needed to reach for her and when I did, my world transformed into pure self love and purpose.
So Now What?
Today I am a certified dating & relationship coach, speaker, and activist who helps empower women who feel stuck and stagnant build purpose and confidence in their break-ups, dating life & relationships. I have facilitated workshops for over a hundred women, been an expert speaker, and featured in BRAVO, Bustle, The Knot, and top-rated iTunes podcasts.
My philosophy is that the most important relationship you have is with yourself, and it sets the tone for every relationship you have in your life.
Coaching that Works
When I met with Carla I was on the heels of a break up and questioning if that decision made sense for me. I sat down with Carla and within seconds was made to feel comfortable and heard. I experienced an “ah ha” moment and I can’t help but attribute that to her non-invasive way of having me dig deep for my own truth. Carla is an empowering coach and I would recommend her to anyone searching for their inner purpose.
– Lindsay L. – Los Angeles, CA