You may feel a lot of anxiety while living the single life and going on dates. But there are absolute ways to avoid looking desperate even if you feel you really want that relationship, like now. I’ve got you covered with my top 5 Ways to Avoid Looking Desperate:
Communication is big time when it comes to planning the date to follow up texts and phone calls. Keep in mind that there are no rules, like waiting three days to wait until you reach out. It’s totally fine to reach out to someone a day after. But what really matters is your wording.
Wording should be casual and assertive. An awesome way to follow up from a date to feel out if there will be another is to say, “If you’re interested I would love to get together again.” This is a great way to allow the other person to be a part of the decision making. It’s direct but also casual.
Think about where your mind is at on your date. If you’re going in hoping this is the person you are going to marry then take a moment to breathe. The last thing you want to do is start rattling off when and where you want to get married and have kids. It’s important to discuss these topics but not make them the goal of the date. Check in with yourself and think about your fears that are stopping you from being present on the date.
Your talks should just flow and be super simple. Think of it like an interview that is going both ways. You don’t want it to be a one-way interview where you’re grilling your date question after question. Remember you are here to exchange information. This is a great way for you to learn in a casual way about each other.
Think about the questions you ask
Are you asking questions because you truly want to get to know the person? Or are you asking because you have other motives? When asking your date questions think about it as a way to gauge their interests and hobbies. Go a little deeper beyond the usual “what do you do for work”. Instead, ask them about their favorite part of their career. Find a balance between surface and in-depth questions.
Bonus Tip: If you reach out to this person after the date and they don’t answer, don’t follow up like a crazy person. Usually, a text sends and a voicemail goes through. Your fears behind the desperation are just an illusion. They are not who you are. Happy dating, girl!
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