The scary truth about fertility isn’t the truth at all. Instead we’re forced to fear false facts that our eggs are dwindling, which BTW is from a study done in France in the 1700’s. No, 1700’s is not a typo.
As a dating coach, my women clients talk to me about the pressure to have kids ASAP. It’s no mistake that society puts the pressure on the woman. My male clients never bring up the pressure to have children regardless of a recent study. The Boston Globe states, “sperm count of men in Western countries has been declining precipitously with no signs of “leveling off.”
Besides, for a majority of my clients I hear too often they feel a pressure to pick their career over a child. You’ve maybe heard someone say, “she chose her career over kids.” When in reality women have been doing both all along.
The system is set up to make women feel as if they need to choose. According to a Guardian article, “the US is the only OECD country without a national statutory paid maternity, paternity or parental leave.” The fear of when to have a child, how to juggle your eggs and career are at the forefront of our worries because the system has created a false narrative.
I became fascinated by this when I was at my gynecologist for my annual visit, yay for self-care. I began discussing fertility with my doctor. She pointed out that she has patients up to age 45 who have healthy children and that your eggs don’t drop off at 35. I felt duped. All this time I’ve bought into the narrative that after age 35 you better get to work – if ya know what I mean.
Annoyed and frustrated, I went home and did some intense research and digging. Yes, you do have to dig for the truthful facts on fertility. But what I learned was important to busting some of these false facts that we as women AND men hear over and over again.
Here are FALSE Fertility Facts Women Hear so that you can choose what you want to do with your body:
Here are the facts from a BBC article (2013)…
FALSE: 1 out of 3 women over the age of 35 will not have conceived after a year of trying. (Study 1700’s France)
TRUE: Ages 27-34: 86% will have conceived within a year of trying.
TRUE: Ages 35 to 39: 82% will have conceived within a year of trying.
FALSE: Age 30 + High Risk of Chromosomal Abnormalities.
TRUE: Age 20 is 1 in 500.
TRUE: Age 30 1 in 400.
TRUE: Age 40: 59 out of 60 women will have ZERO chromosomal problems in their baby.
According to Quartz article (2016)…
FALSE: Age matters when having a kid.
TRUE: Fertility is very dependent on the individual.
FALSE: You should be a mother.
TRUE: It’s your CHOICE what you do with your body.
Create your own narrative whatever that may look like for you. At the end of the day deciding to have a child is a personal choice. There is no right or wrong way to go about it. It’s important that you do you, girlfriend!
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NOTE: I’m not a doctor and I am not giving medical advice. I have back-linked my sources above & below: